about the hat

it's made of fleece and is very warm.
part of being cool is not caring about whether you're cool or not. that's what makes you cool.

as soon as you start fussing about whether or not you're cool, or you start hassling other people about not being cool, you compromise your own coolness.

same goes for masculinity. only those with deep-seated anxieties about their own masculinity hassle other blokes about theirs. blokes who're comfortable with their own masculinity feel no need to wave their tool about in other people's faces, either actually or metaphorically.

unless it's for the sake of a particularly Witty and Clever practical joke. then it's a different matter.